HOW TO DO
SELF FORGIVENESS?

Forgiveness is:

• letting go

• absolution

• redemption

• release

Therefore, when you write or speak “I forgive myself ….” you are implying that you are “releasing”, “letting go”, “absolving”, “redeeming” yourself.

When you write or speak Self-Forgiveness, you have to ACTUALLY MEAN IT!

(if you can’t bring yourself to the point of meaning it, are you saying that you are not worthy of forgiveness? That would be a lie!)

If you don’t mean it, it doesn’t work!

Therefore, Self Forgiveness must be Self Honest!

If you are not honest about it, it will not work!!

Now that I got that VERY IMPORTANT POINT out of the way, let’s look at the actual HOW TO do Self-Forgiveness.

Like this:

“I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to … “

These words are SPECIFIC!

And you want to always begin the sentence like this (or some other variations that you will be able to spot in the examples.)

The words “allowed myself” imply that YOU are taking responsibility and accountability! You recognize that it was YOU that “allowed” a specific thought or emotion/feeling to control or limit you.

LETS LOOK AT SOME EXAMPLES:

“I am not good enough”

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to think that I am not good enough

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to think that I am worthless

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to think that I am no good

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to think or believe that I do not deserve a good life

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to diminish myself and my worth by thinking and believing that I am not good enough and not worthy of a good life.

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to believe that I am not worthy of love — to believe that I am not worthy of even loving myself!

I forgive myself that I haven’t allowed myself to love myself by first making the effort of taking good care of my mental health and the health of my body.

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to believe and think that it is hard to take care of my mental health

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to be caught up on all the thoughts and overthinking that complete stops me from even taking a small step, a small action, that I already know will slightly improve my mental health.

See?

I have just literally blasted these Self Forgiveness Affirmations as I was picturing someone that is stuck in a rut, depressed, feeling as though they do not even have the energy or ability to take care of their home environment (cleaning it, tidying it up, etc…)

See how I started with one small affirmation, targeting a specific experience (feeling): “I am not good enough”

And then I started to expand it - and in that started to deconstruct more and more aspects of that program (“I am not good enough”) that keep the person in that experience.

MORE EXAMPLES:

On Procrastination

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to procrastinate - to allow myself to be a procrastinator.

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to procrastinate by distracting and entertaining myself with things such as social media (or games, or shopping, or drugs/alcohol, etc…) instead simply getting on with the things that I know I should be doing which i know would be good for me.

I forgive myself that I haven’t allowed myself to realize that procrastination is an energetic experience of resistance that stops me from moving myself.

I forgive myself that I haven’t allowed myself to realize that behind the experience of procrastination there is some form of fear or insecurity or doubt or even a lack of a clear reason or purpose (or belief) about the thing that I am procrastinating about — which means I have to identify the real reasons behind the procrastination so that I can empower myself to act, realizing that once the reason&purpose for doing a certain thing is clear and I know the benefits, I will be more willing to act on it.

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to wish and want for change in myself and in my life without the experience of resistance (such as procrastination) without realizing that CHANGE ITSELF will be met with resistance — because my old ways (and habits and thoughts, etc) will be, in a way, fighting for their own survival — because if I REALLY make a change, my old ways will die and I will, in some ways, be a new person.

On Jealousy

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to be jealous.

I forgive myself that I have allowed jealousy to contaminate my relationship with my partner.

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to be jealous if my partner speaks or gives attention to other people EVEN WHEN there is no real reason whatsoever to be fearful or insecure about our relationship — all because in my previous relationship my partner left me for someone else and now I am afraid of it happening again.

I forgive myself that I have allowed my past to interFEAR with my present.

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to project my past experiences on my current experience, and project and anticipate problems where they do not exist.

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to fear losing my partner.

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to fear dying alone.

I forgive myself that I have allowed myself to fear not being able to have a stable and lasting relationship, to have children and grandchildren and grow old surrounded by people that love me.

And so you continue…

I hope this was enough to show you how you can use Self Forgiveness to start deconstructing and deprogramming yourself from all the thoughts, feelings, and emotions that are limiting you.

Yes, this process is EXTENSIVE!!!!

But, what did you expect??? You’ve been living with your own thoughts and emotions/feelings inside you ALL YOUR LIFE, with each passing day thinking and thinking and feeling and emotion, all the time = which is how you have PROGRAMMED YOURSELF!

You’ve been programming yourself year after year after year — and, truth be told, you have not programmed yourself to be the BEST THAT YOU CAN BE!
(it’s ok, forgive yourself, you didn’t know any better — but now you know!!!! And with knowledge comes power and responsibility!!!!)

As little children, we are programmed by our parents (that also didn’t know any better…) and then society also ensures we are programmed to fit into the madness that is this world. As such we become the image and likeness of our creator (society) and we become MAD ourselves!!! Some become depressed, some anxious, some greedy, some addicts, some power-seekers… There are different kinds of “madness” that results from this mad world.

So, realize that IF YOU REALLY WANT TO REALIZE AND MANIFEST YOUR POTENTIAL = it will take a considerable amount of time to deprogram yourself completely because it took you a long time to program yourself to be who you are today!

Realize that certainly not EVERYTHING about you needs to be deprogrammed

You must RECOGNIZE YOUR QUALITIES!!!

Lean on them, develop them. As to the stuff that you know is not the best of you, then it is your responsibility to transcend them with the aid of Self-Forgiveness.

On a final note:

Remember that Self Forgiveness is JUST A TOOL!!!

The effect of the tool depends on YOU — on your Awareness, on your Self Honesty, on your Starting Point, on your Intent — and, within this, also on how you develop and finetune your ability to use this tool.

I’ve been doing this since late 2007. I have written and spoken millions of Self-Forgiveness words at this point… Don’t expect to do it like I did here.

You just have to GET STARTED - and the more you do, the better you’ll get at it, the more efficient it will become = and the result is you starting to experience an inner peace and a trust in yourself that can’t be described…